
You gotta be kind to yourself …
So it’s that time of year again when we all start making resolutions. In the past mine have mostly been of the practical type, for example :
1) Eat less food and become a size 8.
2) drink less wine, I am not a wine lush you understand. This is for sartorial purposes ( please see above ).
3) To have no more than ten pieces of clothing in my ironing basket… This is rather than the hundred and ten currently residing there in .
4) To Remove my make up every night with a proper *grown up* beauty cleanser … Not a baby wet wipe .
5) To occasionally have painted finger nails and soft hands , rather than them be covered in painting inks and *witchy* from too much washing up.
6) Always wear rubber gloves ( even though they make my hands smell funny…) See above for reasons .
7) To watch more mind enhancing tv… like the news and not so many films staring Zooey Deschanel or re-runs of America’s next top model . I may even cut back on my Ina watching…although technically cooking shows are kind of mind enhancing.
To clean the oven … sometimes
9) To smile … more, to prevent wrinkles.
10) To stop buying dresses ( or maybe just cut-down). I have so many, some are the same dress, in more than one colour. Some even just more than one of the same dress. In case of accidents with bleach or tumble drier . oh and boots , no more of them either ….
As u can see all pretty standard, surface, achievable goals… Which I never fully achieve. I think in part because I don’t care enough about them. So this year I’m going the spiritual route. Call me crazy but I think I have a few real life changing resolutions up my sleeve … Ones that have nothing to do with my capacity to eat chocolate or down a glass of pino grigio .
So here goes …
Be kind to myself…
I like lots of folks I think, have guilt about pretty much everything. Not being a good enough parent, partner , daughter , friend , artist, business type person … human being ?!?! You get the picture. I think we all have this anxiety in varying degrees. I have a feeling I may have it baaaad.
And I’m pretty sure the path to all things happy probably doesn’t start with one of those nasty thoughts ..
So no more, I’m going to try and see myself in a more positive light, be kind to myself . Every time I have a negative thought about myself I’m going to try and replace it with at least one positive one .
Here are several posts from Angela at Oh She Glows I’ve found to help re-adjust things in my head a bit ( some great food over there too, just sayin )
http://ohsheglows.com/2011/10/18/seeing-the-positive-in-a-negative-situation/
http://ohsheglows.com/2011/11/02/how-to-reframe-a-negative-thought-with-a-thought-record/
2) Live for the moment – I’m going to enjoy blowing raspberries on Millys belly, rather than worrying about my bank statement . … Again
I’m going to dance around the kitchen to stupid music with Ellie rather than worrying about the state of my laundry basket … Again
I’m going to play minecraft with jack and I’m going to try be interested , rather than letting my mind wander to what the hell we’re going to have for tea… Again…
I’m going to go out with big J on regular date nights ( very American sounding I know but I think our cousins have this one right ) and I’m not going to worry about wether Milly ( who’s 3 at the end of this month) will be scared for life if I leave her for a couple of hours to go see Sherlock Holmes 2 … I may even go for a entire night away! ( deep breaths for that one… She will be okay, she will be okay … I know I need help
3) To be happy … Happy as can be, happy as a sand boy ( not sure what one of those is but you know .. Happy ) with just what I have . Because if I’ve learned anything from last year its that there’s a lot of truth in that old song… “Enjoy yourself, it’s later than you think “. Even if we have a whole lifetime left …. its still bloody late
So that’s it, all that’s left to say is goodbye 2011 you stank a tiny bit for a lot of people to be honest. But hay , you taught me a lot and I’m very thankful for that. Thankyou all for being such fab bloggy/ twitter /Instagram friends too, you have all chivvied me along with your kindness and boundless encouragement this year. Next years gonna be a blast folks… I’m leaving you with some of my favourite captures of this year and something cute from Zooey Deschanel ,
So, Happy New Year!!!!!
Keep calm and eat cake folks,
Oh, and don’t forget, if you can’t say anything nice about yourself, don’t say anything at all ! …
That’s it I’m going now… Honest …. See you on the flip side *wink*
Icklebabe xxx
