Comments on: People we lost…

By: Helen

Helen — Mon, 04 Oct 2010 13:15:53 +0000

You made me cry now lovely Richela…I am SO glad if I have helped a bit hun. You have helped me more than you know in return with your words and posts. And I LOVE being your English Twin. XXXX

By: CraftyRichela

CraftyRichela — Sun, 03 Oct 2010 13:22:32 +0000

Oh, Helen. I am crying right now…
How is the granddad book coming along for Milly?
We struggle so much with the loss of our parents, don’t we. You are such a strong person and I am forever grateful to know you and read the words you write. It’s been tough this last week, knowing that my 100 days are almost up. Thank you (THANK YOU–this is me shouting at you) for supporting me, for sharing with me, and for being my English twin.

xxxoxRichela

By: Susan Mann

Susan Mann — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 15:31:20 +0000

Beautiful post. It’s so difficult to loose a parent, you do think they will live forever. My dad died at 57, it really isn’t old at all. My heart goes out to you. Hugs x

By: Sue

Sue — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 17:15:55 +0000

Your idea of the little book is lovely. My Dad died on 12 November 1973 aged only 53. It’s weird to think that I’m now 7 years older than he was. He had known for just 3 weeks that I was pregnant so a similar situation to yours. I see a lot of my Dad in my new granddaughter. The resemblance is quite astonishing at times.

By: Niki

Niki — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 10:01:53 +0000

I think that is a beautiful idea. Although those we loose are no longer physically there with us they live in inside us in our memories & in our love for them. If u r able to capture some of that to pass onto milly & to remind jack then that can only be all good. I still hope ur having out loud chats with him? He will gw listening I promise. Xxx

By: Helen

Helen — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 09:23:16 +0000

Thanku for taking the time to comment Elizabeth, you’ve given me chills.
We really don’t know how blessed we are these days, in your great grandmothers time they had to deal with the sadness of death allot more than us.
My dad was very interested in our family history too (when i was younger i never shared his interest, which i feel bad about now). But your comments have really encouraged me to do a bit of searching, so thanku xxxx i’ll keep you posted xxxxx

By: Elizabeth Miles

Elizabeth Miles — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 08:02:52 +0000

Over time stuff will come out of your mouth and into your head that are your Dad’s words – just what he would have said. You may build sand castles, lay fires, or tie shoe laces like he did. Your parenting is his parenting – where else did you get those skills?
In recent years I have done work on my family history. My great great grandmother brought up 3 girls in the slums of Leeds by herself (she was a widow). The oldest died at 17. She died in 1903 and is at the bottom of a common grave with 12 strangers. Now I know this I wish I could dig her up, cuddle her like a child, tell her it will be alright and, what’s more thank her for the struggle that resulted in my life amongst others.
I have found family history so helpful in getting to know my parents better even though, like you, I have lost my father
Take heart

By: Helen

Helen — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 07:29:00 +0000

Aw I love that too, such a lovely thought Rock and Roll mummy XXXXX

By: Rock n roll mummy

Rock n roll mummy — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 07:24:43 +0000

Lovely idea and such a moving post. My toddler has started asking me who my mum is in pictures she has seen around the house, I tell her it’s her special nanny who is being looked after by the angels and fairies in heaven and she loves that. Sending u big hugs today x

By: Helen

Helen — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 07:05:14 +0000

Oh Becky, so sorry if I made you feel any sadder today. We have granddad pictures all around too, its great because Milly actually knows who he is even though they never meet. She is so very like him in so many ways too, which is somehow a comfort XXXX